Question:
How does one heal from a devastating childhood to a nightmare of a marriage? I am a 36 year old woman that has now come into realization that I have not lived under normal circumstances. I am a loving person that now trusts no one! I have three beautiful daughters and I wanted every one. I have been despised by my mother and considered stupid for having my children, to the point that my mother not only resents the girls, but she would love nothing more than for me to lose my daughters. I am battling with a psychopathic ex-husband that has teamed up with my mother in order for me to lose my babies.
I am a college student trying to better myself, although I have been told that it is not possible to do this with three children. If there is any suggestion I will be grateful. Furthermore, I may not be a doctor, but I can read and this is what these people are.
Thank you for your time.
Dr. Heller's Answer:
There are 5 things that should be done...
1) See a good therapist ASAP! This will help in many ways, the most important ones are determining what is real and what isn’t and learning how to cope with your situation. The therapist may be of assistance in your legal problems as well.
2) Make sure you have a good lawyer. Getting a 2nd opinion may be a wise choice.
3) Get treated medically for depression or anything on my screening test - http://www.BiologicalUnhappiness.com/screen.htm
4) Get Zig Ziglar’s "How to Stay Motivated" series and listen, listen, listen. He’s the best coach you could ask for. 1-800-527-9000.
5) Read some important books about mental health, success and spirituality. I highly recommend:
a) "Your Erroneous Zones" by Wayne Dyer b) "Pulling Your Own Strings" by Wayne Dyer c) "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie d) "Embraced By the Light" by Betty Eadie e) "Happiness is a Choice" by Barry Neil Kaufman f) "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale g) "Seeds of Greatness" by Denis Waitley h) "Tough Times Don’t Last, Tough People Do" by Robert Schuller
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