Question:
Okay the Prozac has really helped.
Everyone says I'm happier and easier to
get along with. Even my wife likes me
more. But there are problems. It takes
an hour to (have an orgasm) and it makes
me not want my wife and now she thinks I
don't want her. I still don't know how
to be happy without being angry. It
makes me feel scared and I crash and make
things worse. What do I do now?
Dr. Heller's Answer:
The orgasm problem usually goes away with
either ginkgo 120mg twice daily,
Wellbutrin (buproprion) or both. The
difficulty achieving orgasm may be a
symptom of being scared as well. People
who are used to being angry often don't
know how to handle their real feelings.
Anger is not a feeling, it's a defense
that gives us the illusion of strength
when we feel weak, vulnerable, powerless,
hurt or afraid. Without all the anger
those other feelings are likely
interfering with your life - probably
affecting your sex life as well.
You need as needed medications for when
you crash. Haldol (haloperidol) 2mg
usually works
(http://www.BiologicalUnhappiness.com/dysphori.htm).
You may need Tegretol
(carbamazepine) as well.
You also need to "retrain the brain."
You're used to being angry, moody,
depressed and miserable. You think like
an angry, moody, depressed and miserable
person.
(http://www.BiologicalUnhappiness.com/Retrain.htm)
summarizes what I recommend.
Four things you need to do:
1) start reading the books I recommend:
"Your Erroneous Zones" by Wayne Dyer,
"How to Win Friends and Influence People"
by Dale Carnegie, "Happiness is a Choice"
by Barry Neil Kaufman, "Looking Out for
Number One" by Robert Ringer, "The Dragon
Doesn't Live Here Any More" by Alan
Cohen, and "See You at the Top" by Zig
Ziglar are an excellent start. Even 5
minutes a day will work and you'll
eventually get them read.
2) Do the affirmations out loud twice
daily for at least a year. See the
bottom of
http://www.BiologicalUnhappiness.com/Retrain.htm
and substitute your name.
3) Get Zig Ziglar's tape series and
listen, listen, listen and listen. The
borderlines who listen to Zig ziglar the
most do the best. They can be purchased
in CD form at:
http://www.ziglar.com/store/index.html?c=1&i=15&t=0
4) See a therapist and get professional
help. See a therapist that emphasizes
moving on from here rather than dwelling
on the past.
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