Question:
Does anyone know what to do when I,
as a BPD individual, feel very strongly about
a man who
loves me, and then the next day, I think he
is all wrong for me? How do I know which one of
my opinions to trust? They are both equally
strong and intense opinions.
I feel like I am on a
roller coaster, and I bet he does, too. Any
ideas? What do I do? How do I trust my judgment
when it keeps changing?
Thank you!
Dr. Heller's Answer:
If you’re feeling peaceful, kind
and loving, you can trust your judgment. If
you aren’t, you
can’t.
Whenever someone with the BPD is upset it
is impossible for that individual to make
that interpretation. That’s why it’s so
important to stop the chronic anger and unprovoked
mood swings and to treat all dysphoria episodes
medically.
The BPD is a disease where the brain’s "trapped,
cornered, wounded animal" instinct area is
broken. When you are perceiving the world from
that perspective you can’t interpret reality
correctly, no matter how "real" it seems. Once
the episode is over you can then try to find out
what’s real and what wasn’t.
You may need a
therapist’s help to understand what was real
and what was an illusion, but the importance
of medication cannot be overemphasized.
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