QUESTION:

Dear Dr. Heller,

I saw three shrinks and they all said you were wrong. I am BPD and always will be. I showed them your stuff, and they told me I was simply too sick to ever be good and that there ain't no hope. Who are you to give me hope when it ain't possible?

ANSWER:

Your question reminds me of the story where an aerospace engineer told a bumble bee "I've studied the aerodynamics and you can't fly."

There's probably nothing I can write to prove to you how well you can do. There are some testimonials on this site, and there will likely be more in the near future. The proof comes from success.

That borderline disorder is a medical problem that is absolutely treatable. There's lots of information on this site, including scientific information, that proves my point. I see patients with the BPD every day who are doing dramatically better.

I encourage you to read the information, particularly the "How I treat the BPD and Why" section which explains my rationale and experience. My first book on the BPD is on the recommended reading list at the National Institute of Mental Health. There are lots of ask the doctor questions, scientific literature, etc.

I encourage you to find out more. Borderlines can have a sensational life, with success in every area of life. They must do the things that work, however, and not insist that the world changed the definition of healthy so that what they're doing wrong is accepted as okay.