QUESTION:

Dear Dr. H.,

Leave it to me to be analyzing my situation more than I probably should! I feel so good these days: the flowers are brighter, music sounds sweeter, I am reaching out to people I know and don't know with small acts of kindness. I am at my wit's best! I had planned to be Scrooge for Christmas this year but now I'm searching for the perfect gifts for those closest to me. People tell me how happy I seem and I find myself wanting to say well, "It' s drug induced, but I don't mind." In fact, I want to make a bumper sticker that says "Prozac works, ask me how! It's not a mania. I feel calm and relaxed just eager to start everyday! My question, is this the REAL me? This side has come out before for short periods in my past, so I guess it existed all along. I'm just hoping it lasts for good this time.

Thanks, Dr. H.

ANSWER:

Yes, it is the "real you." It can last the rest of your life, and even get better. There will be times when you "crash" - and that’s what the dysphoria instruction sheet is for. Individuals with the BPD can’t rely on their bad feelings or memories, but those with a good heart can be trusted. Sometimes you’ll be hurt with a good heart, but you’ll always be hurt with an angry heart.