Dear Dr. Heller,
In marriage counseling some years ago, my husband was labeled emotionally
unavailable. I am desperately lonely, and have told him this. Is this problem
Living with such a problem is actually all but physically abusive. Do you have a suggestion? Thank you for your time.
While Asperger's or Autism may be to blame, I'd recommended a good look at the screening test I use for my patients as it gives clues.
Those diagnoses are definitely treatable and can make a huge difference.
If your husband is willing to change, and read with you or do marriage counseling, that could make a huge difference. If he is unwilling, you'll need to decide whether trying to find someone else is in you best interests.