Q. I have often wondered if I suffered from BPD. I am a very angry person, I have few friends (by choice), I'm single, Have had a string of long term relationships that have gone nowhere, Dislike people immensely, have no feelings I can identify with except anger and frustration. I lack the capacity to attach to anything, completely noncommittal in all areas of my life, and can best describe my life as a dark cloud of lingering melancholia. I often drink alone. I am currently 43 years old and feel as if I don't have the energy for years of Psycho therapy. What can be done? Are there medications available for my condition? What type of changes can I expect with these medications? I have spent years trying to deny that there is actually something seriously wrong with me, but I seem to be getting worse with age, and my antisocial behavior is beginning to alarm me.. Can I be helped?
A. Absolutely. There's clearly more than just the BPD going on. You need a thorough diagnostic evaluation and comprehensive treatment plan.
You also need to learn how to be successful at everything important in life. Your note implies you are finally ready. I'd strongly recommend you get Zig Ziglar's "How to Stay Motivated" tape series and listen regularly - 1-800-527-0306. The books "Happiness is a Choice" by Barry Neil Kaufman and "Embraced by the Light" by Betty Eadie may help you with perspective as well.