Is There A Connection Between BPD And Abusive Partners?


    Dear Dr. Heller,

    Hi, I wanted to know if there is a connection with those who have BPD and are married to abusive partners.  I have BPD and seem to have the pattern of marrying men who are abusive.  Currently, I am married to a very abusive man and cannot seem to break free.  I do not trust myself with decisions, and I don’t know if it is because of my BPD or just a factor of the abuse I have suffered.  Let me know if you have found this to be true.



    It is indeed common.  There are many reasons such as tolerating the level of anger, feeling profoundly relieved when a spell is over (which can stop a dysphoric spell), self-hate, etc.

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